As a change maker who works with people helping them to grow and evolve you’ll find that personal transformation tends to take time …

That’s why it’s important to create an environment in which people enjoy being around you. In my experience creating a sense of excitement, adventure, and even a that of a healthy challenge tends to keep people engaged of longer periods of time.

And, as a change maker you need all the time you can get to bring about positive and lasting change.

Therefore it’s crucial that you have projects to involve people in. Step into people’s lives, become a friend to them and help them to find purpose, meaning and fulfilment in their lives.

And this is where the third of the Four Goals of Life comes into play.

If you haven’t already, go back and read the previous two blog posts where I share about the first and second of the Four Goals of Life as laid out by the Vedic sages.

According to these ancient beings we’re all born with four inbuilt desires, the so called purusharthas. These four purusharthas are known as the four human pursuits which are the pillars of a living fulfilling and a satisfying life.

Through their Self-exploration they realised that the essence of who and what we are as human beings can be described with the sanskrit term, satcitananda.

This word consists of three aspects. Sat stands for eternity, cit means pure consciousness and ananda means bliss or joy.

In other words our our true nature as defined by the Vedic sages is one of eternal pure blissful consciousness.

This is relevant because each of these four goals of life find their origin in the essence of who we are. We’re born forgetful of our true nature yet these four root desires are like an echo of a distant memory of the truth of who and what we really are.

The third of these four goals is called Kama - which can be translated as the gratification of desire.

Kama is the longing for pleasure in any and all forms. It is really the desire for fulfilment, enjoyment and bliss.

Generally we regard sensual enjoyments as the experience that provides that. So that is why we are so drawn to sensual enjoyment. However, kama goes beyond mere sensual enjoyment. It is very much about having a desire and the actual fulfilment of that desire.

We hardly ever enjoy objects for the sake of the objects themselves. We are after the experience of joy that we expect objects to provide for us. In this context objects are means to and end and not the end itself.

Kama has a seed desire within it of experiencing the fulness, the bliss and joy that are part of our inherent nature. It is the memory of the ananda aspect of our being.

A life without pleasure and enjoyment is hollow and empty. This desire for pleasure is one of the main drivers of human behavior.

As a change maker realise that art, music, beauty,  affection, friendship, and kindness— are aspects that speak to the desire  of Kama and bring a sense of delight to our lives.

Discernment is important though, because Kama is useful and necessary when it exists to support the fulfilment and embodyment of our Dharma. It adds to the richness of life.

However, excessive Kama can create imbalance and disharmony in our lives when it turns into overindulgence, addiction, laziness, greed, and lust.

The Upanishads the sages tell us, “As is your desire so is your will, as is your will so is your deed, as is your deed so is your destiny. You are what your deep driving desire is.”

So ask yourself “Are the pleasures I’m pursuing aligned with my life’s purpose?”

Everyone is looking to come home to who they really are. That is what these four main aims of life are for.

Realise therefore that ultimately, the highest Kama is the longing for Oneness with the Divine.

And this links directly to the fourth and last of these Four Goals of Life which is the topic for the next blog post. I hope to meet your there.